Author: Nancy Darling

  • Allodynia: Smell the Roses

    Allodynia: Smell the Roses

    Focusing all your attention on one manageable area of sensation can drown out the sensation of pain.

  • You Can Curse

    You Can Curse

    How do you cope when things feel their worst? You can cry. Or laugh. Or curse.

  • Hydration Tip 1

    Hydration Tip 1

    Hydration is every doctor’s go to recommendation for anyone living with chronic pain. But it helps. Your cells can’t function properly without sufficient water. Not drinking enough causes pain all by itself that can’t be distinguished from pain due to illness. Plus – as I always tell my son – if you drink enough water,…

  • 5% of US teens live with life altering chronic pain

    5% of US teens live with life altering chronic pain

    Acute pain is protective. With chronic pain, the pain itself becomes the disease.

  • Are You Faking It?

    Are You Faking It?

    Faking being sick? I’m faking being well. And not that successfully.

  • How to Relax in 5 Minutes

    How to Relax in 5 Minutes

    Pain, stress, and emotional distress are in the mind, but express themselves in physical tension. You can feel it in that tight neck, those stiff shoulders, and in that clenched jaw and hands. Notice that your back teeth hurt just a little? Feel that twinge between your shoulders? Back ache just a bit? The relationship is…

  • Incomplete Acts, Everyday Anxiety, and Getting Things Done

    Incomplete Acts, Everyday Anxiety, and Getting Things Done

    Four strategies to organize work and decrease anxiety.

  • Thanks. I’d Rather Skip The Pain

    Thanks. I’d Rather Skip The Pain

    It feels good to be recognized for being strong. Because overcoming obstacles is hard. Especially when many of those obstacles are not something that most people even see as an obstacle – like making it from your bed to the couch. Overcoming obstacles can reveal strength in us we never knew we had, shape us…

  • Taking Back Your Life

    Taking Back Your Life

    1step2life started with my son’s experience with severe chronic migraine disease. It made no sense to log pain when the pain is always there. What he needed was something that helped him celebrate his victories – making it to school, getting the mail, turning down the pepperoni pizza and sticking to his low tyramine diet.…

  • Almost there . . .

    Almost there . . .

    We’ve been feeling like that pilot attacking the Death Star in Star Wars.

  • School: The Big Picture

    School: The Big Picture

    Families need to work together towards a shared goal: helping children grew into healthy happy adolescents and adolescents make successful transitions to adulthood.

  • Getting Kids In Pain To School

    Getting Kids In Pain To School

    Concrete tips on moving a teen in pain out of bed and towards functioning.

  • Control Your Focus

    Control Your Focus

    I’ll be honest. I spend my life crazy stressed. I have a job that my husband describes as ‘flexible – you can work any 60 hours a week you like’. And then I have two more jobs – I am Editor in Chief of the Journal of Adolescence and I’m also starting this company. And…

  • Doctor! Doctor! It hurts when I do this.

    Doctor! Doctor! It hurts when I do this! Well . . . don’t do this.

  • It’s hard being a parent

    It’s so hard as a parent when you are desperately hoping your child will just make it to school and squeak through to graduation. And so hard to listen to even your dearest friends fret about things that you’d give your eye teeth to be worrying about. It’s just hard.

  • Everyone’s got a friend with ‘the’ cure.

    You know they mean well. You know they care. In fact, they’re trying to be sympathetic and make a connection. But when you tell them you have severe chronic migraines and they say ‘oh yeah, my sister-in-law gets migraines too’, and then ask if you if you’ve tried Excedrin Migraine . . . . No,…

  • Refining the Interface

    Many people living with chronic pain are sensitive to the environment. On the down side, there’s the pain. Allodynia is a condition where modest stimuli – like brushing your hair – triggers pain. It’s common in people who have migraine, regional pain syndrome, fibromyalgia, other conditions. I remember my son cringing from the sound of…

  • We are getting so close!

    The developers have been working hard to take our dream and turn it into an app that you can download from the AppStore or GooglePlay. We are getting so close! We are currently working through our fourth version of the app, making sure the user interface is as clear and easy to use as we…

  • Starting college? Getting the right accommodation plan is essential.

    A few years ago, I wrote a piece in my Psychology Today blog for college students about how to talk to their professors about accommodations. Most professors (not all) honestly want to help. But the letters we get from the offices of disability service are usually vague and don’t tell us what students really need.…

  • You can’t stop pain by thinking about it

    Just a shout out to a good blog on the use of distraction in chronic pain published in Psychology Today.